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Emotionally draining. Happy ending.

I don’t even know where to begin, but to say that last week was one of the most draining that I’ve experienced. I felt like I was a rubber ball thrown from one wall of emotion (terrified) to another (scrambling, nervous) to another (relieved, elated) to yet another (insanely enraged beyond all imagination).

Which is why I stayed away from my blog until tonight. BECAUSE UNDER THAT TYPE OF EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY, I PROBABLY WOULD HAVE SNAPPED EVERY SINGLE THREAD OF RATIONALITY INTO THIRDS.

Really. I’m not exaggerating.

Oh, where do I begin?

Andrew This is the little 4 year old boy who’s been complaining of headaches and “Mommy, my bed is twirling” for the past few months.

So, we took him to the doc:
“I can’t think of any reason why he’s got these symptoms. Let’s watch it for a few weeks and see if it keeps happening.”

And we went home and just kept careful watch of what might trigger these episodes.

A few weeks later, I brought him back to the doc, prompted by Andrew’s teacher who mentioned to me that he was complaining about his head.

Doc: “I think we should get a brain MRI because blahblah blah TUMOR blah
blah TUMOR blah BRAIN blah blahbla
SURGERY
blahblah TUMOR.”

There probably were a few more blahs in that conversation, interjected by several OH SHITs. But who’s keeping record?

Armed with lots of lab orders, phone numbers and a bunch of big, fancy medical terms that I quickly scribbled down, I just went on autopilot, arranging for specialists, labwork, insurance approvals and the MRI.

Because our insurance plan is more stringent than a hamster’s ass (being self-employed or a small business really sucks for affordable options), I spent hours on the phone getting the runaround. It was no fault of the insurance company – they have their rules and I signed paperwork agreeing to follow them. And of all the parties involved, my nurse case manager was most helpful.

But Andrew’s doctor’s office held the ONLY key to getting all the other tests and appointments approved. AND THEY KEPT PASSING THAT DAMN KEY AROUND THEIR OFFICE. At noon, Rick had possession of the key, but oops! He’s out to lunch. Call back. Then he passed it to nurse Kathy who then did a quarter-turn underhanded toss to office manager just seconds before her 2-minute time out. Leave a message. Then office manager Stacy dribbled it to center field, fake right, fake left and shot it towards the basket, only to be intercepted by what’s-her-name the receptionist. Call back.

Oh, if you can’t tell. I don’t know jack shit about basketball. Whatever.

Finally, I got the brain MRI scheduled at the hospital for Tuesday morning. But wait, the a bumbling nurse calls Monday afternoon saying they had a scheduling goof and the next opening was in 4 weeks. Would we mind waiting?

hmmmm…it’s just a possible FUCKING TUMOR in my kid’s head. What do you think???

So after my little hissy fit, they gave in an told me to come tomorrow morning 7am sharp. We get there at 7am. We checked in and waited. And waited. And waited. An hour and half later, still waiting. Keep in mind that Andrew wasn’t allowed to have a drop of fluid or anything to eat since midnight. My poor baby is thirsty, “a little sip of water please, Mommy?”

sigh

I go ask. “Oh, I’m sorry. We’re missing some paperwork from his file. We have to wait until your doctor’s office opens at 8:30 to get the paper faxed over”

sigh

and then they forgot about us.

sigh (wishing either I had some Valium or a bag of petrified brussel sprouts to pelt the staff with)

Finally. Andrew’s name was called. Oh my little precious baby was scared. Scared of blood, scared of needles, scared of the mask that they would have to put over his mouth to make him go night-night for a while so that they could get the MRI of his brain. He was so terrified he started shaking, screaming, crying, hyperventilating. He didn’t want the doctors, the nurses, the instruments. He just wanted to go home and hide in bed. So the doctor on duty gave him a “cousin of Valium” to make him sleepy, woozy and more cooperative…just so they could at least get him to lay still enough to hook up all the monitoring equipment and the dreadful mask to sedate him.

I’m surprised that they didn’t offer me a whiff of the stuff either, though I was tempted to wrestle that mask away from the nurse and suck in a few deep, long breaths before security would come arrest me. But I was chicken shit and didn’t.

I stayed with Andrew up until he was sedated and then was escorted out. I have no idea how long I was in the waiting room, but kept checking in with the front desk just in case they forgot about us AGAIN. That waiting room is hell. Not only was the TV stuck on some political bullshit channel but I was going through all possible worst case scenarios in my mind.

After a loooong time, a nurse came to me and said simply, “Andrew is awake. Come with me.” She led me towards a room where a nurse was holding a small, shrieking, thrashing child. The cry was unfamiliar and that was not my child. I know my child’s cry and that is not Andrew.

But it was Andrew. I had never heard this cry before because I am a mother who does everything possible to shield and protect my children from harm, hurt and suffering. And this was the first time Andrew experienced this much fear. It took about a half hour to calm his thrashing body about half the hospital’s supply of Spiderman stickers to bribe him to stop crying.

We wobbled outta that hospital, his legs still unsure of supporting his body as the effects of the sedation medication was still wearing off.

And then began the wait for the results.

I prayed to Buddha that they didn’t forget about us again.

The phone rings that afternoon and it was the original doctor, Andrew’s primary pediatrician, you know, the blah blah blah TUMOR doctor.

“MRI came back fine. Andrew’s brain is normal. Maybe he just needs glasses. We should get him an eye exam”

[this portion of the blog had to be edited out due to extreme foul language]

Excuse me, but a FUCKING EYE EXAM? Let’s see if this makes any sense.

ahem.

What do you think should have happened first, a $200 eye exam? or a $5,000 brain MRI that absolutely terrified and haunted Andrew so badly he’s got nightmares every single night since?

hmmm….can someone hand me that tennis racket? Because I think I might just have a bunch of petrified brussel sprouts stuffed in my left pocket.

We’re in Los Angeles right now, so the eye exam will have to wait until we return. But I do think Andrew would look pretty damn smart in glasses. Ok, these are really plastic play goggles from this toy.

Andrew

Anyways, we’re doing great – the boys are having so much fun at PoPo (my mom) and GongGong’s (my dad) house – especially jumping on OPF (other people’s furniture) as they discovered you get a higher bounce and a faster lift on nice, new, expensive leather couches.

We’ll be here for another week visiting, me working, kids exploring….while Scott stays home to work, keep my garden alive (TOMATOES! TOMATOES! TOMATOES!) and try to win a nice, cushy seat in this year’s World Series of Poker, because yeah, we could certainly use an extra $35 million. :-) The kids and I miss him terribly! But thanks to email, text, phone calls, instant messaging, we bug him every 15 minutes.

EDIT: While it might seem I might be upset at the medical system or insurance system, I’m not. Yes, they are broken, but I can’t name one country that has a perfect system. I was just upset at the entire situation and specific moronic people that get paid to “toss the key” around. I do understand that doctors practice under such great risk for malpractice suits – so yeah, if I were a doctor, I’d probably cover my ass too. I am very grateful that the tests were negative and relieved that at least no matter what, we can rule out the big “T” word. But damn. I need a new pediatrician!

***

Los Angeles Cooking Classes

So I’m in LA teaching 2 classes – one on Thursday and the other on Saturday. Both are hands-on classes at Epicurean School of Culinary Arts, a super-cool studio teaching kitchen blocks from the Beverly Center. Wanna come? There are a few spot left in each class. And bring your camera! We’ll talk a bit about food photography and maybe do an impromptu photo shoot of the dishes we cook.

This girl will be helping me on Thursday’s class (excited to meet her and her boyfriend in person!)

and if you’re free on Saturday night and want to assist in the class, I’d love to have you. Shoot me an email at [email protected].

LOS ANGELES, CA Thursday, April 17th 6:30pm: Asian Party Food.

Please contact the Epicurean Culinary Academy to register.

Vietnamese Fresh Summer Rolls with Cashew Nut Dipping Sauce
Minced Chicken in Cool Lettuce Cups with Crispy Noodles
Korean Bulgogi Spiced Burger Bar
Fresh Lemongrass Ginger Ale

LOS ANGELES, CA Saturday, April 19th 6:30pm: Southeast Asian II (different menu from last SEAsian class in LA)

Please contact the Epicurean Culinary Academy to register.

Lemongrass Chicken & Coconut Soup
Malaysian Chili Shrimp
Vietnamese Fragrant Crispy Chicken Wings

Vegetable Pad Thai

Comments 125

  1. Diana

    It’s great news that Andrew’s fine.

    I seriously think the health care here needs to be reassessed! How could they make the poor kid and you go through this, not forgetting that it’s bad enough having to deal with insurance. :(

    Enjoy your stay in LA.

  2. Mel Rethmeyer

    Whew. Any mother would react similarly under such stressful circumstances. My heart goes out to you Jaden. I am relieved to know everything went well and a simple eye exam would do the job. What were those doctors thinking? Oh how I’d love to hit their heads with a frying pan right now.

  3. AMS

    I call this phenomenon “the great American medical testing machine.” Once you get sucked in, there’s no getting out until they’ve given you EVERY test in the book.

    Actually, traumatic as it was (and as poorly handled), it’s probably a good thing that they did the Ultimate Test on Andrew first. Usually, they start small and cheap, if that test is negative, they go on to the next level, if that test is negative, they step up one more, etc., etc., until they get to the MRI (in the case of neurological symptoms like Andrew’s). Ironically, the healthier you are, the more tests you’re given because tests keep coming back negative and the medical folks say, “OK, you passed that one. Now, let’s give you THIS one.” It’s both emotionally AND financially draining, and we wonder why the health care system is in crisis—but don’t get me started!

    The important thing—your darling little guy is fine. My heart goes out to all of you for the horrible experience you had, but he only had to go through one test and you only had one day of anxiety, albeit excruciating, before the all-clear. This stuff can go on for weeks and months.

    P.S. There ARE good pediatricians in the Tampa Bay area! My brother is one (though he’s doing only emergency room medicine now, so this isn’t a commercial for his services!)

    P.P.S. I made your hazelnut-Nutella challah this weekend! Awesome!

  4. Abigail

    And it’s not just in America either. We live in Japan and the doctors are similarly test-happy. Take the time I had a severe sinus infection and the doctor thought it was MENINGITIS! His “conclusion” came from the fact that when he grabbed my head and twisted it around, it made my neck hurt. Hmmm. Even somebody who hadn’t been in a car accident caused by a drunk driver when she was 18 would’ve had neck pain if your head had been jerked around like that! And not only was I jerked around by the head, the dude actually gave me a SPINAL TAP, which was definitely not as funny as the movie. It was some of the worst pain (during the procedure and afterwards) that I’ve ever had in my life (not to mention the risk when somebody jabs a rather GIGANTIC needle into your spine and wiggles it around), and I’ve had a C-section which wasn’t quite so rotten (at least I got a baby out of that one). I’m not a conspiracy theorist, but it does make you wonder just exactly WHY these medical “professionals” order pretty darn expensive tests and therapies that are DEFINITELY not needed.

  5. Inaya

    I had something very similar happen with my daughter when she was about 7 years old. They kept throwing the term “brain tumor” around like it was a baseball… and immediate MRI on a sedated kid…turned out it wasn’t a brain tumor and she got an uber pic of her brain for show and tell at school. I definitely feel your pain and misery at the situation.

  6. Lynn

    Oh, hon, a big hug and a big glass of wine, although both are virtual. I’m so sorry for the aggravation, frustration, fear, and sphincter-go-round. Hooray, that he’s tumor-free!

  7. Amy

    Oh that whole experience sounds like hell, every parent’s worse nightmare. I’m glad it’s over and that Andrew is okay! :) Yes in hindsight the MRI seems unnecessary but at least now you know it’s not something more serious, better than finding out down the road that it was something worse and preventable.

    But I have to be honest and say that some of these comments have upset me. I think it’s unfair to blame the pediatrician for ordering what seems like an unnecessary test. For the most part docs have their patients’ best interests at heart and when it does seem like they are ordering a buttload of tests, it’s not the doc’s fault but the healthcare system. If they order too many tests, the patients are unhappy, if they don’t order enough and miss something, they get sued. In this current awful healthcare system, many docs have no choice but to practice defensive medicine. They didn’t get sometimes 10+ years of education to be ridiculed by their patients questioning their “expert opinion.”

    Sorry, I really felt like that had to be said. /end rant

    I’m glad everything is fine now Jaden. *hug*

  8. eliza

    any chance you’re in LA again in July? that way i could attend your class LOL… what a story with your boy! i’d be scared too if i were you…

  9. Suganya

    Jaden, I am sorry that you have to go through this. But your experience is quite scary. We may be yet-another-hyper-reactive-patient. But its our precious baby’s health under question. I hope they start treating people with more humanity without worrying about liability. I am happy that this episode has a happy ending. But this experience could have been better. Hugs to Andrew.

  10. FlaNBoyant Eats

    Girl thank God he was alright. Those insurance companies and Dr.s are worse than lawyers, I swear. I’ve been through the same exact thing about 8 years ago–mine was severe tension in my neck, causing me to need to massages!

    Have fun in L.A.!

  11. amy purple

    I’m glad to hear the MRI didn’t show anything. If the eye exam doesn’t seem to be the issue, don’t be afraid to go to another doctor and get a second opinion. Something must be going on for him to have such headaches and dizziness. Seriously, after watching Mystery Diagnosis, i almost don’t trust doctors. Have you ever seen this show? It makes it out like doctors like to ‘wait to see what happens’, say the patients are making it up or they simply don’t know what it is. Sometimes it takes these people 20 doctors to find someone to give them an answer! Then, you wonder, why did all these doctors miss it and this one doctor figured it out so easily? Enough of my rant, I hope he’s going to be just fine. I’ll be thinking good thoughts for him.

  12. gizmar

    I can honestly say “I feel your pain”. I don’t think there’s a more frustrating or hopeless feeling in the world than relying on a medical system that sees people primarily as part of the roster of people to see in a day. Although I’m sure you’re still struggling with the aftermath of borderline raving lunatic and high anxiety terrified mother, thank G-d that the end result showed no tumor. The alternative would have been far worse but of course you know that.

    Just keep watching the headaches. Pay attention to what triggers them and make sure to rule out migraines.

    Positive energy and thoughts going your way. Andrew is such a little cutie and very precious.

  13. Zenchef

    I’m glad to know the little bundle of joy is doing okay. Sounds like an horrible experience. You have every excuses to get wasted on whatever alcohol you want now! Have fun in L.A!

  14. Jen da purse Ho

    OMG your son is so adorable.

    and i’m so glad it really was nothing. i’m sorry they had to put you through all that emotional BS! all for an eye exam. SHEESH!

    i am a big fan of your blog! :) Keep it coming!

  15. Cakebrain

    I’m glad your little one is okay. I’m not saying Canada’s medical system is great (long waiting lists!), but I haven’t heard of going through that kind of crap before. At least we don’t have to deal with the insurance issues. That’s one really really cautious pediatrician…erring on the side of the scary health issues. You sound like you need a drink…a day at the spa or something to recuperate from this exhausting experience.

  16. Dianasaur

    Oh man, you poor thing! I can’t imagine the heart wrenching of hearing your child in that kind of anguish. I had my share of scary doctor’s visits as a child. But my worst was at age 19. I was living on my own in Hawaii, my family was across the ocean. I’d been having headaches so bad I’d lose consciousness, and went in for an MRI on March 31. The next day I went in for a follow up appointment and the orderly who took me to the exam room told me I only had a year to live. Then he paused as I looked at him in horror and said “April Fool’s Day!” He said afterward (when I got in him in heaps of trouble) that he didn’t realize why I was there (hello! You had my chart in your hands!) and was trying to be funny and flirt with me. Fortunately, I ended up being alright, but I still remember the absolute terror of fearing the worst.

  17. pictomo

    All I can say is ….leave some stinky, scary asian food to rot deep in the recesses of the Pediatrician’s cabinets next time you have an appointment. No lawsuit can cause that much disruption! Fishy fishy bad bad!

    So sorry Andrew had to endure the idiocy of our medical system…assure him as a result of the MRI he now has Superhero Powers because of going into the Superhero-making tube! The new glasses will give him extra-super-special vision!!

    As for mom….hugs and hugs and hugs and hugs….

    xo Mo

  18. Tempusfugitive

    So glad all is well and your right on target about the many problems in our medical systems among many probs going on right now. I will warn you that going through the process of getting glasses for a young child is a major challenge as well, I know because my Mom told me so and reminds me often, note I did out-grow them, so this may be a short term thing for your son. So deep breaths and lots of rotten veggies to throw should get feel the need :) Hang in there and enjoy LA! Just know, your son will look back at this bad day and only remember that his Mom was there to make it all better, again I know from my own memories of my amazing Mom.

  19. Mike

    I’m so sorry to hear about the terrible experience but I’m glad that everything worked out in the end.

  20. Kathy

    Hi Jaden – what a nightmare time for you all. The dilemma between opting to immediately investigate the most serious outcome possible, and risking waiting to eliminate more minor causes first is a very fine balance (and one influenced by our litigious society undoubtebly). It is interesting to see how your system seems very different to ours in England/UK. We have what is known as ‘The National Health Service’ – central Government funding pays for basic health care – we only pay if we want to bypass this sometimes ineffective system and ‘go private’ ($$$ ching ching!) Interesting then, that our problem in the UK is getting a referral for an MRI scan like this – normally this is considered the last resort, due to the financial cost to the National Health Service. People here die while they wait for vital scans, as there is a long list of patients waiting for one (this is where we may choose to jump the queue and pay to go privately). In your case, your insurance company was paying, so it was deemed favourable to do the MRI first ‘just in case’! I am sure if you had a US National Health Service that this would NOT have been the first line of investigation.
    I don’t have any pretentions of being a doctor, but has Andrew had a virus recently – influenza for example? Years ago I had something called Labyrinthitis a couple of times – the first time it presented with symptoms so similar to those of a brain tumour that I was sent to hospital and was an hour away from being MRI scanned. The specialist consultant then diagnosed Labyrinthitis, which is the result of an infection (often viral) which wriggles its way into the inner ear, causing chaos – everything seems to be spinning etc. I don’t remember it causing headaches though – more balance problems than anything – nausea etc. This condition goes away on its own after a few weeks. Let’s hope it is just that he needs glasses like Clark Kent!! Best of luck with your LA classes – I am jealous – the course looks fab and I wish I could participate. Have you seen the delightful ‘Becks’ yet?! Keep smiling. Best wishes.

  21. Laurel

    I’m a mother of a 12 year old with asmtha since he was 3. Doctor’s don’t care. They say they care, but then their staff are mean people. It seems it never ends in health care hell. The good news is that your boy doesn’t have a tumor. The bad news is: If he needs glasses, you’ll be buying mucho frames for the next 15 years. But you can make him look like Elton John in his early years.

  22. Susie

    That is a stressful ordeal. I’m so glad that he is okay. Dr.’s can be very frustrating sometimes.

  23. Dani

    I’m not a mommy yet BUT I can’t even imagine going through this type of ordeal! I’m so sorry that you and your family had to go through that but am relieved to know everything is okay.
    *Side note: Jaden, you had me crying, laughing, angry and overwhelmed all within a minute and a half…you are a seriously talented writer…as if that was news;).

  24. Brave Sir Robin

    Oh shit Jaden,

    Honey my heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine a more terrifying or frustrating experience.

    Thank FSM he’s alright. The system btw – is more than broken.

    You are so right about self-employed or small business options for health care. As a single Dad, that is the one thing that keeps me from hanging out my own shingle.

    So I keep working for the man.

    I wish I was in LA at your class.

    Take care, and give that boy a hug and all the ice cream he wants.

    k

  25. Nate 2.0

    Jaden,

    I’m glad your kid doesn’t have a tumor but so sad he (and you) had to go through that terrifying experience.

    Strangely though, I took a look at that opening pic of Andrew and immediately thought, the “kid might need glasses.” You should have come to me for a diagnosis first and saved you all that trouble *smile*

    ::hugs::

    Aloha.

  26. eddiefong

    i feel your pain!!!!! but overall everything turn out ok. just be happy it wasn’t the tumour. its just part of being a good parent, comes with the territory!!!! life sucks, but that is how the game is play, so it can be good.

  27. blondee47

    I had a similar experience when my daughter was 5 only they did not do an MRI they put probes on every sq. inch of her head and did a test. I lived, died and came back to life over a span of 4 hours….and in absolute tears as I packed her up with a preganant stomach – the nurse said to my mother and me “have a nice weekend” and I said I don’t know how I will through the weekend and then she patted me on my back and said these words “I know you will and should have an absolutely fantastic weekend and make sure u have a lot of fun” with a wink

    ” which was her way of telling me she saw nothing on the test for worry

    To this day the kindness of those words are the kindest ever heard

    Now onto business….i just came back from the store having found sugar cane which looks like bamboo…and i have to peel it to use it…how do I peel it? I want to make the vietnamese shrimp paste on sugar cane and since it is passover I took advantage of the fishmonger milling fish for gefilte fish….how the F__k do I peel these things?????

  28. Rachel@fairycakeheaven

    Holy shit your poor baby!!! That’s a fcuking disgrace!!! the poor little thing!!!! I am in shock here but do you know the healthcare systems seem to be the same everywhere!!!! I really hope Andrew is ok and the nightmares ease for him soon. Glad there’s nothing more serious wrong aswell. hugs to you rachelx

  29. Eat Me Outta Here

    My heart was breaking just reading your blog. I’m glad that your little one is okay. Through all the torment and torture you have to remember that in the end thank goodness he just needs glasses.

  30. meeso

    First of all, I am SOOOOO glad Andrew is OK! It must have been completely terrifying going through that! I have had my own experiences with health care system and it can really make a person frustrated or down-right angry! Just be so happy that, in the end, Andrew is OK and healthy and cute-as-can-be :)

  31. giabella designs

    Good grief, Jaden! I am glad that Andrew is okay, that you are spending time with parents in CA and that you can write so hilariously about something so frightening! Good luck with your cooking lessons and have a safe trip home! p.s. Jules did call but I was not home! I will try her again this weekend!

  32. USZ

    This is my first time on your site, and my son’s name is Andrew. When I see “medical” and “Andrew”, you automatically have me hooked.

    Firstly-so glad your Andrew is ok. Secondly-maybe we can form a “Parents of Andrew’s Posse” that kicks medical arse when they mess with our kids. Seriously-I have some places to start. And not just doctors, but insurance companies too.

    Mine was born with a hole in his heart. “Let’s see if it repairs itself” cardiologist says. We watch for 6 mos-I guess it’s time for surgery. blah blah blah bread & butter surgery blah blah blah one hour blah blah incision through groin. Fast forward to 5 hours after I put him on the operating table he comes out, hole is much larger than expected, surgeon (from different area, top surgeon in region) is pissed because of misdiagnosis by the other cardiologists and my son at 6 mos old had an implant for an adult sized heart.

    Now at 3 he has developmental delays (not bad, but still) due to the delay in his surgery. Our pediatrician then was amazing, though. The kind you want to kidnap and lock in your basement with all of his equipment (hug him and squeeze him and call him George, love him and feed him and stroke him). He is the only reason I have hair in its natural color and an ounce of sanity.

    Shop around for a new pediatrician and best of luck with the eye doctor (try a pediatric opthamologist-get the cadillac of eye exams. My son had one and it was great).

    Now I have to look at the rest of your blog.

  33. Vitor Hugo

    Oh, boy! I don`t have kids yet, but I can imagine all the awfull thing! But I’m really amazed that doc didn’t try first the simple thing, like eye exam. It’s so weird!

    I can tell when I don’t wear my glasses or the degree changes… oh, headache is bad, really bad.

    Hope you are well! =D

  34. Lisa

    You know what.. no. I’m sorry. Why on God’s green earth would a GOOD doctor not test his eyes first? When I started reading your post, it’s the first thing I thought of.. wanna know why? huh? well doya? I’ll tell ya why.. because those were MY symptoms back in 3rd grade and do you know what my pediatrician told my parents to do? GO GET HER EYES CHECKED. Hello? Course that was 129 years ago, back when doctors weren’t so afraid of being sued.. back when patients were important. Back before insurance scams weren’t all the rage. Whatev.

    I’m just really happy he’s okay and I think he’ll look STUNNING in a cute pair of spectacles. :D

    Hugs to you for having to go through all of that! And have fun with your cooking classes!

    xoxo

  35. RecipeGirl

    Internet hugs to you and your family for having to go through all of that crap. How awful. We had some similar situations with our son when he was younger… had some seizures and they did every test known to mankind to figure out what it was. NOT fun. All is ok with my little guy too. Strange that the whole glasses thing wouldn’t be mentioned first… aren’t headaches a classic symptom of someone who needs glasses???

  36. sunita

    Jaden, so sorry to hear about Andrew’s ordeal…but really glad that your worst fears were not realised. ..he’s such a cutie :-)

  37. Mary Coleman

    Jaden,
    I am so glad that Andrew is ok. I went through a similar thing with my daughter. Drs said leukemia. She had the flu.
    Still haven’t gotten over that and it’s been 15 years!
    Mary

  38. Culinary Sherpa #2

    God Jaden, that is F’d up. Yeah, you need a new Ped. I hope Andrew puts this behind him quickly. I’m sure PoPo and GongGong will help him forget, that’s what PoPos and GongGongs do best!
    Let me know if you want the Sherpas to “take care” of the Ped. Wink Wink Nudge Nudge Mal’s been looking for a reason to revisit his anarchy days, oh, um, of course in a completely legal fashion.
    Big hugs girl!

  39. Marjy

    Whoa. That’s an awful lot of trauma you and yours to have had to endure, especially when the solution could be so simple. I’m glad his adorable little noggin’s okay, but sunnuvabitch! It really diminishes my trust when doctors refer directly for MRIs, surgery, and the like without considering other options, especially when those options can provide the answers or relief we need.

    And I’m so sad that you’re going to be only a two hour drive from San Diego while I’m deeply entrenched in homework! Gah!

  40. Nicole from: For the Love of FOod

    Hey Jaden,
    I know how nerve-racking that can be. My son had to go in a for a heart ultra sound the other day b/c they heard something funny…I had to wait 6 weeks for an appointment at the children’s hospital.
    However, I was lucky – here we have no insurance companies to deal with, and the doctor who saw my little guy was really great and gave him some toy cars to play with during the ultra sound.
    Everything turned out ok, but I was so nervous – the ultra sound took sooo long and all I could hear was “uh huh, uh huh, look at that here, oh, and that there”….I was sure it was the end (of my sanity).
    Glad everything worked out in the end for you two.

  41. amyjo smith

    OH WOW – how terribly scary!! i had a brain mri sometime last year for chronic migraines – and all they found in my head was SNOT. no tumor (not that i really believed there was one, we just have decent insurance so that’s where they started on my headache issue, cuz i’d already seen the eye doc)

    but SNOT? come on, that’s not even glamorous! that’s just downright nasty. :(

  42. Carol

    What a nightmare! I am so glad you son did not have a brain tumor. On the other hand, while it would have been REALLY GOOD for him to mention ‘Hey it could be he just needs glasses so you need to schedule an eye exam today if possible – we will refer you for a STAT exam”. At the same time if it is a brain tumor causing those symptoms you need to find out as soon as possible so you can treat it before it gets worse.

  43. Cris

    I’m so sorry you went through that! Its so awful to fear for your child and then to have insurance / doctor’s office worries on top of that. Having two children with medical needs, I so sympathize with you (on both counts!).

    I have told both office staff and the doctor flat out, “I haven’t ever had a bad pediatrician, but I have had my fill of unresponsive staff. The staff of the office are a reflection of the doctors’ attitude toward their customers. Frankly, they have just as much impact on our experience here and I will move on to another office if we can’t resolve those issues.” I have spent far too many hours on the phone having to coordinate between insurance (which has been great, honestly, and which I am so grateful for) and different doctors’ offices.

    Regardless, the most important thing is that Andrew is okay (so sorry about the fear he experienced) and that you will be too, eventually.

  44. dp

    Jaden, so glad every thing turned out okay. Being a mother is already hard without having to brace yourself for bad news about your child or dealing with emotionally devoid nincompoops.

  45. Tartelette

    Oh geez, you had my heart pounding …glad to know there is nothing as serious and nasty as a tumor. Your boy is a trooper and I hope that he feels 100% better soon. Have fun in L.A

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